The marriage of a senior police officer, Chibuzo Okoroafor and his
wife Faith, has been dissolved by the Customary Court in Alimosho Local
Government Area of Lagos State over allegations of serial marital rape,
abuse, domestic violence, persistent assault , brutal dehumanization and
irreconcilable differences.
According to humanrights activist and
president of an NGO named JLAA, Kingsley Ughe who shared the story
online, the couple's marriage broke down over persistent rape despite
Faith"s often willingness to have sex with Chibizo without the attendant
violence and compulsion.
According to him, Faith ran to JLAA seeking for help. Her story was
bizarre and incredible. It was the physical scars and body sores from
the violence inflicted on her by the husband that convinced JLAA to act
immediately. According to the victim, she got married to her husband on
April 24th, 2014 under the native custom and tradition in Abia State.
Most of the abuse in the beginning was verbal and emotional. He would
complain tirelessly that Faith was boring in bed and lack "adventurous
sexual spirit" whatever that means.
"My husband had certain sexual desires I refused to entertain, namely
persistent slapping of my face, strangling my throat and binding my
arms behind me before and during sex. He would repeatedly beat me during
sex in fits of sexual delirium and ecstasy even when I initially
submitted willingly to sex with him. He wanted me to brutally hit him as
foreplay. The idea of violence before sex is something that completely
disgusted me, so I told him I’d have no part of it. He would become
angry, shouting at me and calling me filthy slurs to repay me for
holding him back from having his fantasies fulfilled. Most often, When I
refuse, he would orchestrate a row between us and use the opportunity
to brutally rape me whenever we quarrel. On one particular occasion, He
pulled me back out by my hair during sexual pleasure and he kept hitting
me again and then he stomped on my head .... I knew if I didn't get out
now, I'd never get out. Eventually he started cheating on me, which I’d
suspected him of many times prior. This time I knew for sure because he
admitted it, and honestly, I was happy he’d lived out his desires and
left me in peace"he said
However, this escalated as the years passed. Some of my friends and
family told me to leave him, but others believed I should stay to work
through our problems for the kids.
“He’ll grow up,” they said The only part of him which “grew up” was his taste for sexual violence.
Faith prayed the court to dissolve the marriage and grant her
continued custody of the children of the marriage. Chibuzo did not
object to the divorce and had no legal representation. The Magistrate
said Chibuzo’s refusal to stop the planned dissolution indicated that
the parties had consented to severing the union.
He granted Faith the continued custody of their two children until
maturity, adding that Chibuzo had the right to see his two sons whenever
he wished.
The judge also ordered Chibuzo to pay Faith N120,000 monthly as upkeep allowance for their children .
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